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JTURNER's avatar

When I was in basic training, when someone in authority rose from the table, we had to stand. Likewise with a female, whether an authority or not. And to rise when seated to greet someone.

WarEagle's avatar

I'm mostly Scots-Irish. Most of my family comes from the Ozarks. And I was born and raised in Texas. So all of them, of course.

Though to be serious, this isn't my first time to read through them. I enjoyed your added comments.

I prefer "George Washington's Rules of civility : traced to their sources and restored" by Moncure Daniel Conway - https://babel.hathitrust.org/cgi/pt?id=uc1.$b310461&seq=48

This is an interesting book as well. "The George Washington Rulebook of Achievement: 237 Ways to Become the Person You Want to Be" by E. T. Hansen - https://a.co/d/07RJgtm7

On a similar note, I've also enjoyed Stonewall Jackson's Book of Maxims by James Robertson Jr. and thought you might too. He was influenced by Chesterfield to an extent - https://a.co/d/0eJlXEDK

The American Tribune's avatar

Thank you! I’ll check these out

Plant Baw F-250 Squatted's avatar

On 26: "don’t wear a ball cap or sunglasses inside, etc."

Also important is never wearing a hat at night, but nobody follows that rule.

The American Tribune's avatar

This one I have noticed happening much less than ball caps inside, but yes very true

Josh's avatar

I'm a hat guy, if I can be: flat caps by preference whenever possible, since my senior (12th grade) year. I'm nearly 45 now. I follow the Army's rule on "covers" whenever practical--on out-of-doors, off inside--but for the past few years I've made personal exception for supermarkets/big-box-stores/department-stores, partly because my civilian wear so rarely has good hat pockets in it.

Jared Power's avatar

Something I took from my grandfather was “Don’t show emotion on the golf course.” Whether your shot is good or bad, don’t allow others to see how you feel about it. Basically, this aligns with not drawing attention to yourself. I need to work on this too.

bammin's avatar

Great listicle!

Some of our stories are certainly against the idea of civility, and that probably doesn’t help. American Psycho. Get Out. This idea that civility is part of the problem is a bit embedded. But so, too, is desire to be civil. It’s genetically coded. So I have faith here.

Rick's avatar

Table Manners are not so relevant today. Such moments then were huge moments of social intercourse…. Not so much today.